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What To Do If Your Child Is Unhappy In School


As parents, it’s important to make sure that your child is getting the best education possible. You also want to know that they are growing emotionally and psychologically as well as intellectually. So what do you do if you find out that you child is unhappy in school?

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Does your child seem unhappy in school? Here are some of the things you can do.

Is Your Child Unhappy in School?

Unfortunately, there are some times and situations where the school that your child is enrolled in is making him or her unhappy. You don’t want to rush into the situation and pull your child out of the school. This is especially true if it’s the middle of the school year and you also don’t want them to suffer. Additionally, you don’t want to waste valuable time in a place where your child is not learning as they should be.

If these things are happening to your family, here are some steps you can take. Each step progresses, depending on your situation.

Steps To Take When Your Child is Unhappy in School

Here are some of the steps you can do if you discover that your child is unhappy in school.

Have a Dialogue with School Admin

Firstly, talk to the teacher and administration at the school. Set a proper appointment, don’t just ambush them along the school corridor. That way, your issue will also be taken seriously.

Sometimes your child’s problem is easier to fix than you might think. In some cases, a child who is gifted will begin to dislike school because it is boring and frustrating for them.

In other cases, an undiagnosed learning disability or vision impairment prevents a child from learning and causes them unhappiness and low self-esteem.

If your child is unhappy in school because of something that is fixable, you should try to correct them first before taking drastic measures. And it really pays to have an open line of communication with the teachers and school principal. Information will help you make better and more sound decisions.

Moving to Another School

If your child’s school will not work with you or has no suggestions for improvement regarding your child’s predicament, that’s the time to move out. You may need to consider placing your child in a private school (or if you in public school) or just to move to another private school.

There are many different types of private schools for you to choose from, each with its own advantages and disadvantages. This can be an expensive option and many people rule it out for this reason. Then, there’s also a matter of proximity.

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Insisting on the standard and usual means of education can cause a lot of emotional and psychological problems in kids.

However, there are often scholarships available in private schools. Take advantage of these scholarships in order to fit private education in your family budget.

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Alternative Schools

Finally, if traditional private schools seem like a choice that will not fit your family, consider alternative schools. Democratically-run schools or outdoor schools can foster a sense of maturity and responsibility in students that otherwise aren’t getting the stimulation and encouragement that they need in regular schools.

Meanwhile, boarding schools are an option for kids who need to get away from bad influences in their home area or for kids who want to travel and learn a new language and culture. You can search online to find a good school where your child will thrive without sacrificing his or her happiness in life.


And for us, because we are already into it, our best option is to get into homeschooling. Right now, our eldest daughter is already in Level 4 and homeschooling in Bacolod. The second one will yet undergo Kinder 2 in regular preschool and then start homeschooling at Level 1.

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Sometimes, they might be unhappy because they don’t like learning that is too academic.

We believe that homeschooling is best for our children and it also fits our lifestyles perfectly. We bring them around, we travel as a family, let them attend events, go to museums, and such. Our lives are not structured, but the kids are still learning about life and having good values. It may not be for every family, but this way has been effective for us.

As part of their socialization, I have started the Bacolod Homeschoolers Network — a cooperative among Bacolod homeschooling families so that we can organize monthly activities and even play dates for our children.

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10 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Child Is Unhappy In School

  1. Thanks for the tips Mommy Sigrid! My Louise will be in grade 1 soon, still looking for a school and I’m really wishing we’ll end up in a place where she feels happy, be confident and responsible.

    1. That’s true sis. Keep praying for direction. We are doing that as well for Siobe, as we are still deciding on the best preschool for her. 🙂

  2. Opening up a dialogue with the school is so important when working out what the issue is. We’re incredibly fortunate in that the school that my children attend are great at really listening to the parents.

    1. That is a great thing! I have a friend who brought up issues before the school administrator and it ended up in a shouting match and an appearance to be settled at a local government official’s office. It sucked because the school admin won’t admit to his faults. He was very arrogant and shaming the parents. Twas really bad. 🙁

  3. This is such a hard topic and really hits home for me. My son had a really rough patch in 1st grade last year, a big part seemed to be an issue with his best “frenemie” but he also had some health issues going on. Together it meant weeks of crying before school every morning, saying he was sick, when I made him go to school he’d go to the nurse who would call to have him sent to the doctor. OMG. I hope next year is better. It’s so hard!!!

    1. Oh my… hope that gets resolved. I feel sad for your young son, getting exposed to such emotional stress at such a young age. Have you considered another school?

  4. Wow, these tips are awesome! My sister have her daughter undergoes homeschooling as well. It definitely fits their lifestyles as they can go on trips without having to wait for the school break. ~ Ola @ WanderWithOla

  5. It’s always difficult when you trust someone else to look after your child. I always worry about whether my own daughter is happy in her educational setting. There are so many factors in school — the staff, the teachers, the classmates, and other people.

    1. Wow! Homeschooling rocks. We are also happily homeschooling our two daughters here in Bacolod. We were among the pioneers and very vocal about it. That’s why I started the Bacolod Homeschoolers Network.

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