Many people know that I am a Christian and therefore believe in Jesus and the bible. Through the years of raising my children, there is a motherhood verse that keeps leading me. Know what that is.
Motherhood Verse vs. Anger Issues
While many people know that I am a Christian, what they don’t know is that I have anger management issues. It’s a long-standing battle and thankfully, my condition is much better now.
However, through the years, when I am tempted to lash out at the children, I am reminded of this verse from the Bible.
While some people may understand it differently and affect their lives in a different way, it has affected my views about motherhood.
Raising two smart, inquisitive, highly-talented, and very talkative girls while homeschooling in not an easy task.
I don’t get a rest day from them–unlike other families where children are sent to school. There are times that they can be too much on my nerves and I can get mad at them, not only at what they do.
But this is our choice and we love the flexible lifestyle that homeschooling affords us. We can travel any time and bring the children along without fear that they will be expelled for being absent for long periods of time.
That’s not good but I am still human. Though not perfect, I keep coming back to this verse. It’s my primary motherhood verse and there is a second one, too.
Read more about them.
Gentleness from Isaiah 40:11
“He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads…. those that have young. ~Isaiah 40:11 NIV
The verse is like this but I don’t know this hit me as a motherhood verse. This has been my inspiration.
“He” refers to Jesus and He shepherds the lambs (the people, His children). He is like a parent taking care of children.
But what hit my heart the most is the next part, “He gently leads…” While the verse says he leads the “mothers of lambs” gently, that verse struck a chord in me — I am to lead my children gently.
It’s not about authority, pride, and control. It’s not about bending their wills and crushing their spirits just to discipline them and achieve MY goals.
It’s living a life of gentleness and leading them gently into making the right decisions for themselves.
Oftentimes, I discipline the kids harshly, especially when I am already tense and just want them to stop bickering.
But it’s not about that. While we do impose rules, restrictions, and punishments, it should be done gently because they are kids who are still learning.
- Related: 4 Kinds of Learners
They have got to learn a lot about life and it’s up to us parents to guide them in the proper way.
Exasperating Children from Ephesians 6
There is also a second verse that has a great impact on me even while I still single.
“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”Ephesians 6:4 NIV
A lot of times, parents can get angry and scold their children. But honestly, a lot of those times that children have made us mad is because of our actions. I have chewed on this verse many times and thought of the ways that parents can anger children.
One of which is giving them contradictory instructions and getting mad at them for disobeying. But which one would they really obey?
Another thing is promising something, including punishments, and not carrying it out.
Parenting is Not a Walk in the Park
Being a parent is more than just providing for the children’s basic needs like food, education, and shelter. We are raising the next generation here. This means we are building the nation.
Our guide is mostly from the bible, from our Loving Father. And these two motherhood verses have really helped me in parenting our two daughters.
How about you? Do you have a motherhood verse, too? Can you share it here, too? <3 Please leave a comment below.