Why Family Meals are Important


The family is the basic unit of every society. Needless to say, we need to strengthen that basic unit in order to have a strong community and eventually, a strong nation. Basic things like eating family meals are often neglected but these times together can further strengthen the bond between members. Let’s look at why family meals should become habit in every Filipino home.

Family meals should be top priority

Family meals should be important parts of the day for the whole family. These meals should be lovingly and carefully prepared.

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~ Family meal times should be given importance. If you only have the weekend, then do it. ~

And most of all, this is a time of fellowship among family members.

Present Situation

In current times, our family structures have strayed far from the stereotype of “ideal”. In past generations, the ideal scenario would be parents and young children living together.

But because of changes in our society, we now have different family structures. There are single moms, single dads, OFW families, extended families, and many more.

Sense of Family

There is a sense of great assurance in “family”. So whatever structure your family is, the leader should make it a point to provide that sense of assurance. Each member should feel validated, loved, and have a sense of belonging.

And the best time to do that is during family meals.

Why Family Meals are Important

Here are some reasons why family meals are important and should be given priority.


Even if you are blood-related, family members can easily become strangers. That is because the connection was somehow lost or cut along the way.

Working parents or teenage children can easily become “boarders”. They treat the home like a boarding house because they merely come and go. There is no sense of belonging. And it also follows that there’s no sense of responsibility.

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~ Maintain your family connection during meal times. ~

The connection between family members need to be reinforced everyday.

Talk about the day

Take a great interest in what happened to your child’s or husband’s day. Ask them how their day went and the conversation will surely get going.

If you are not used to doing this, it might take some prying to get them talking.

Answer questions

If you have young kids, they will have a lot of questions. I should know, I am a stay at home, homeschooling in Bacolod mom, so the questions all day are relentless.

But if there are sensitive questions, I’d rather that I answer them myself. If I don’t know the answer, I search them up online. It is during these times that I impart so much to them, just by answering questions.

Teach table manners

Obviously, children are not born with table manners. We need to teach them so that these become a habit. When we go out to eat in restaurants, they will bring those dining habits with them.

The best time to teach them, of course, is during meal times.

You can see how they are while dining, so you can guide or correct them on proper manners. That is our responsibility as parents.

Encourage them to eat healthy

We can easily guide our children to eat healthy by showing a good example. It is during family meal times that we can show the kids that we also eat our vegetables.

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~ The easiest way to get the kids to eat their vegetables is to show them during family meals. ~

We get to pray together

Sometimes, we just say a harried pray because we are hungry. But most of the time, we do sit down for heartfelt prayer. By doing so, we are inculcating an attitude of gratitude to the children.

Plus, we would most likely see them develop that habit of thanksgiving and praying for others, too.

What We Should Not Do During Family Meals

So while I would encourage you to share family meals as often as you can, there are also things that we should not do while eating together.

Engage in gadgets

Family meal times are integral to connecting with family members. We, parents, should not handle gadgets during meal times, including the TV.

At the same time, kids’ gadgets are also not allowed on the dinner table.

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~ Gadgets should be off the table during meal times. That includes the TV set because they get our attention and rob us of intentional fellowship. ~

Get angry

Sometimes, we learn something that will make us mad. Deal with these issues at a separate time. Eat and converse during family mealtimes and avoid getting mad. Everybody will easily lose their appetite when the mom is mad.

Moreover, avoid issuing threats during the meal. It will dampen everyone’s appetite.

When Common Time is a Problem

Now, what if finding a common time is a problem for your family? Here are some suggestions.


Our situations now have become very busy. Parents work while kids go to school. Mornings are usually harried just to keep everyone on time. Meanwhile, lunches can be hard to tackle because breaks are short.

So most of the time, it is already in the evening when everyone is almost always available.

Try to keep your dinnertimes in sync. For parents, really try to eat dinner at home. Your kids won’t be kids for long. When they become teens, it would be harder to keep them all together on the dinner table.

Eat out

There are just times when it is hard to prepare food at home. This is especially true when parents are working and there’s no helper at home.

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~ Eat out from time to time according to what the family budget can afford. Saves you stress and will give the family something to look forward to. ~

The easiest way to go about this is to eat out. Or buy food for take out.

It doesn’t have to be expensive. You can always find food that everyone likes. In our city, there are so many Bacolod restaurants you can choose from that are affordable and family-friendly.


During weekends, make family meal times more special. Cook special dishes at home that your husband and kids can to add to their happy memory bank.

Many years later, memories of your happy weekend family meal times will resonate. That will be part of their happy place. Here are some of my special homecooking recipes that you might like:

Workable Ideas

I may not know your family setup, your problems, or financial situation. All I know is that, we all need to eat.

If we want to get to know our kids, the best thing is to do is to spend time with them. And relaxed, happy, and comfortable family mealtimes can be the key.

Some of my ideas may not work with you, but I’m sure, with some study, you will find what will work for your family. Meal times should be part of happy family traditions. God bless you!

Do share some of your insights on family mealtimes by commenting below.

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12 thoughts on “Why Family Meals are Important

  1. This is a great read! I grew up in a busy home but eating together was always a priority…especially family lunch on Sundays. The table conversations were priceless!

  2. This is such a great post, so many takeaways. There’s no better way to connect with family than through good nourishing food. Meal times are very important times to connect with family.

  3. I agree with everything you wrote here. Meal times are great times to connect with everyone in the family. Our 10 year oold daughter would often tell random stories about school, her friends or crack jokes during dinner. I treasure those times since I know when she becomes a teenager, it would be harder to make her talk and share stories to us.

    1. Napakaraming magagandang benefits kapag nagsasabay kumain ang buong pamilya. Narito yung strong bonds at masayang usapan kapag nasa hapag kainan..

  4. Magandang topic to mommy.. I love this very much.. Must read po kaya isi-share ko.. Totoo pong napakahalaga ng family meals kahit siguro for weekends lang di padin mawala to.. Naalala ko dati nung wala pa kong Asawa hinding hindi kami kumakain ng di kumpleto ang miyembro ng pamilya. Ayaw po kasi ni papa ng hindi kami sabay sabay kaya need pa namin hintayin mga kapatid kong nasa school pa hehehe.. mAsaya sya kasi family bonding talaga walang tv walang cp kundi kwentuham lang kung anong ganap ng araw na yun..😍😍

    1. Your Papa got it right! Sa aming may TV because we eat with my in-laws and that is their TV time. But it doesn’t stop the kids from talking to us haha

      1. Yes 1 rule palagi ni papa na in time of Family meal kailangan na complete and kwentuhan lang walang gadgets and t.v. Sana nga maulit yun kaso may kanya kanya na kaming family..

  5. Eto tlaga ang mga gusto kong basahin na blog About family. Yess, totoo po, minsan talaga importante na kompleto ang pamilya sa hapag kainan. Dun lang din minsan nagkakaroon nang connection. Especially kapag halos busy lahat nang family member dapat meron talgang time like family dinner or lunch. Sa hapag kainan lang din nagkakausap or bonding kasama ang nga kids.

  6. Kahit simply lang ang nakahain sa hapag basta kasama ang pamilya magiging masaya at masarap ang kainan. Ika nga the family that eats together stays forever ❤

  7. Love this post momsh! ❤️ Kami momsh hindi pwede may mauna o mahuli sa hapagkainan, palagi kaming sabay-sabay ☺️ Importante talaga ang pagsasalo-salo ng pamilya sa hapagkainan. Dito po kasi tayo nakakapagkwentuhan, nakakapagbonding at nakakapagdasal ng sama-sama. Bilang isang pamilya mahalaga na meron tayong oras para isa’t isa.

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